Codependency & Relationship Therapist Online Across Missouri

Rebuild connections. Restore harmony.

It’s hard to focus on anything besides the worries you have about your relationships.

Whether it’s a romantic partner or spouse, your child, another family member, or even a coworker—you never feel like you can fully relax and let your guard down. It seems like no one ever really listens to you, and it’s left you feeling unsupported and lonely. It’s exhausting constantly walking on eggshells and worrying, but speaking up always seems to lead to arguing, and arguments never seem to lead anywhere productive. So, you often pretend you’re fine when you’re really unhappy and struggling inside.

Maybe recently, you’ve been…

  • Worried that you’re not good enough or not doing enough to make others happy

  • Having thoughts of ending your relationship, but shoving them down

  • Feeling like a failure as a parent or partner or professional

  • Dealing with the stress of a chronic illness, or the stress of caring for someone chronically ill or emotionally unstable

  • Building resentment around how much you do & sacrifice for others

  • Feeling hopeless that things could ever get better

And maybe the people you’d normally turn to for support have said you need to make a change, but you’re overwhelmed even trying to figure out where to start.

Through therapy,

You can have the closeness & security you desire.

  • We’ll spend our first few weekly sessions talking about what has led you to this point in your life. I’ll ask questions that will help me get to know your backstory, and we’ll discuss what your goals and desires are for the future. We’ll take an honest look at the challenges you’re currently facing in your relationships, and determine what is yours to change and what might be out of your hands.

  • Next, we’ll find ways to go about changing the things that are within your control. Together, we’ll discuss the patterns we’ve noticed, and discover which ones might be harmful to you and your relationships.

    I’ll teach you how to feel those real, human feelings—like the intense rage, envy, or despair that we all experience sometimes—and show you that it is normal and okay. Then, you’ll learn to move through those feelings with more grace and ease.

    You’ll have a clearer sense of what you want more and less of in your relationships, and learn how to set the boundaries needed to find balance.

  • Having learned the right tools and skills you need to find a sense of calm regardless of what’s going on, you’ll be able to have the uncomfortable instead of often difficult conversations that will create change for you. You won’t feel obligated to constantly defend and explain yourself, and you won’t take other people’s reactions as personally. You’ll be confident and trust in your ability to speak up for what you want and need, when to choose to speak or listen, and stay in control of your reactions.

    Ultimately, you’ll realize that a lot of the things you learned in your past about relationships simply aren’t true, and what you learned to be and do to survive isn’t your fault. Once you learn those skills and practice them in real life, your fears of people not liking or approving of you, or even leaving you, will evaporate.

    What will be left is an openness to real connection, and the knowledge that the relationship that matters most is the one you have with yourself. And that by you honoring yourself you will know how to honor the others as well.

My approach

Nurture your heart & honor your spirit.

Release…

  • Frustration & overwhelm

  • Hiding your true self to make others comfortable

  • Guilt & hopelessness

  • Patterns of conflict that lead nowhere

  • Self-doubt & bottled up emotions

  • Fear that loved ones will leave you

Reclaim…

  • Balance & self-care

  • An inner calm, even amidst tension

  • Trust in yourself & your choices

  • Confidence that you matter

  • Speaking up for what you need & want

  • Connection to your truest self

You deserve healthy & fulfilling relationships.

Let’s cultivate them together.

Frequently asked questions

  • Codependency is a pattern of behavior in which someone excessively relies on another person or bases their self-worth on another person’s feelings or reactions. People with codependent tendencies often sacrifice their own needs and well-being to appease those they rely on for stability. It often stems from fears of being abandoned or unlovable, but can absolutely be unlearned and overcome.

  • While I do sometimes work with parents and their children together, or co-parents, I do not counsel romantic couples.

  • Your relationships can truly benefit from the things you’ll learn through counseling at any stage. The key is recognizing when you might need more support and making that step to reach out.

  • Along with everything I’ve learned in 30+ years as a psychologist, I take a truly holistic approach to therapy. Meaning, we’ll acknowledge how the mind, body, heart, and spirit are interconnected, and use techniques that support the wellbeing of all aspects of you. You can learn more about my approach on my about page.

More questions? Check out my FAQs page.